Rejection: Not the Last Word
The Rev. Allison Zbicz Michael
Mark 8:27-38
“He said to her, “Let the children be fed first, for it is not fair to take the children’s food and throw it to the dogs.” But she answered him, “Sir, even the dogs under the table eat the children’s crumbs.”
Anyone who’s read the Gospels knows that the Jesus of the Bible is not always the meek and mild babe we see draped with that hazy angelic light on Christmas cards. The Thomas Kincaid palette of colors just can’t capture that Jesus who goes about cursing fig trees, cleansing the temple, and, rebuking sinners of all stripes– Pharisees and scribes, impetuous disciples, greedy hoarders, neglecters of the poor. While words of judgment are uncomfortable for all of us sinners, there is at least a logic to it that we can understand. Few of us could love or respect a God who takes a neutral stance in the face of murder, predatory greed, violence and abuse. Few of us could love a God who would abandon us to our basest impulses with an apathetic shrug. The rough side of Jesus in the Gospels is the Jesus who works tirelessly to root out all the forces of evil and death in our world and in ourselves.
But today– this lesson seems different. Jesus speaks to the Syrophonecian woman in a way that seems downright rude. There is nothing at all in the text to indicate that this has something to do with judgment or justice. “Let the children be fed first,” Jesus says, “for it is not fair to take the children’s food and throw it to the dogs.” She’s a desperate mother, pleading for help for her beloved daughter. Which one of us wouldn’t do the same if our child were in trouble? Plus, how in the world do we fit this apparent prejudice against a gentile woman in with Jesus as the “Light to the Gentiles” or even our second lesson, which dedicates a great deal of space to God not playing favorites or showing partiality?
Theologians have tried any number of solutions to this predicament. Some have tried to claim that “dogs” was really “puppy” a term of endearment. Possible, I suppose, but that lady wanted help, not a dismissive pat on the back. Others have claimed that Jesus was testing her as Job was tested. Also possible, but it is hard to tell, however, exactly what Jesus was thinking.
So perhaps it would be better to approach the story from another angle. While I cannot think of other places in the Gospels where Jesus comes across as so harsh to someone in such desperation, I can point to times in my own life where I have felt as if Jesus had just spoken those harsh words– or something like them– directly to me.
In fact, nearly every person who strives to live a life of earnest prayer will feel, at one time or another, as if God has cast them off. Expressions of that feeling are all over the psalms, the great prayerbook of the church. “Why do you no longer go out with our armies?” “Hide not your face in displeasure!” “Return to us again, O Lord” There will be days when our deepest and most heartfelt prayers seem to be thrown back in our faces. There will be days when our spirits are dry and broken and it feels like our prayers never reach the heavens. The reasons for these experiences are many and varied. Sometimes we’re just too narcissistic and proud to see and understand and our blindness is self-imposed. Sometimes we’ve let ourselves become dull with distraction– thank you, Netflix, Pinterest, and Angry Birds. Sometimes God is trying to teach us to love him for his own sake, and not just because of what we get out of this relationship. Despite our best efforts pharmacyincanada to bargain and persuade, God will not be our own personal-vending-machine in the sky, no matter how much we might be craving a Snickers bar. Often, however, the reason for that experience of rejection is simply beyond our earthly understanding.
At one time or another, all of the great saints have cried out with St. Teresa of Avila, thrown from her horse and sitting in the mud, “Dear Lord, if this is how you treat your friends, it’s no wonder you have so few!”
We can read those words with a bit of tongue and cheek, but the losses we suffer in this life can be incredibly painful: the lives we mourn; the illnesses that don’t find earthly healing; the goodbyes and the broken relationships. And the feeling of rejection or abandonment by God, the source of all goodness and grace–even when it is only in our own imagination– may well be the most painful experience of all.
That is the cry of Christ himself on the cross, the climax of his own suffering, “my God, my God, why have you forsaken me?”
The Gospel lesson we read may not tell the Gentile woman why she had to go through such trials at the feet of Jesus. Nor will it tell us why the God who fills all creation with his glory sometimes seems so far away to us. What it does tell us is that such experiences do not tell the whole truth about who Jesus is, and that they certainly do not have the final word on what he will accomplish. In the end, the woman’s daughter gets the healing she needs.
Through his death and resurrection, Jesus extends that same healing to all of us.
If you are in a season in your spiritual life where prayer is difficult, worship is dreary, and God seems far away, as I’m sure some of you are, know that you are not alone. Whether that experience has lasted for weeks or years, God has not forgotten you. Continue praying as best you can– honestly put yourself before the only One who can solve the intractable problems of our lives– keep arguing with him, keep pleading, keep returning to him. And rely on the whole community of God who pray with you and lift your prayers and pains up before God. There is no greater act of faith than to continue to cry out to the Lord when your feelings are pulling you towards hopelessness. Listen to your brothers and sisters who have been through that desert and who have come out on the other side. Know that this season will not last forever. He will lead you into even greater intimacy with Him, and into new life through Christ.
If you are not in a difficult season in your life of prayer, thank God first, but also start now to cultivate the habits and practices that will sustain you for the challenges that you will, at some time or another face. It will happen. Take time daily to rest with God in prayer, to give thanks and pray even when you don’t want or need something. Listen. Cultivate holy friendships in which you pray with and for each other. Receive the sacraments. Love your neighbor. Each day is a gift, and our every breath is grace, but there will come a day when you are acutely aware of your own powerlessness, and you will need to rely on those habits, friendships, practices and gifts of grace to see you through.
And, by God’s grace, you will make it through those times. We never know how long those dry and thirsting seasons will last, but they will end. God will bring you through the spiritual desert and into the Promised Land, turning your laments into hymns of praise. He will turn your dry and thirsting soul into a well of joy and peace. There is no more powerful encounter than the one where God reveals with vivid clarity to you that he is indeed the one you have been hoping for and struggling with and praying to. The answered prayer. The clarity of vision. The experience of his embrace. Often we have to wait for those encounters with God, sometimes for a very long time, but they do come to those who continue to seek his grace.

Farewell
April 9, 2015 by Genevieve Zetlan • Uncategorized • Tags: brad, Rector, rundlett •
The Rev. Bradford Ayers Rundlett
Ecclesiastes 3:1-7; 7:8, 10, 13-14
Psalm 119:89-96
2nd Thessalonians 2:13-3:5
Matthew25:31-40
“For everything there is a season, and a time.” [Eccl. 3:1].
Buenas dias mi vecinos, mi hermanos y hermanas in JesusChristo. Dios de bendiga. Good morning neighbors, my brothers and sisters in Jesus Christ. God bless you.
“Once upon a time” or “I remember the time” is how we usually begin telling stories about experiences and events that mean something to us. You might be sad because a friend is moving far away and you know you’ll not likely see your friend again. You might be excited because it’s your birthday and there’s going to be a party with presents, ice cream, and cake. You might be fearful because your doctor said those tonsils just have to come out. Maybe you’re filled with thanks because you just got the news that your first grandchild was born fifteen minutes ago, that mom and baby are fine, and you got to see it with skype.
Pain, joy, and other “seasons” come and go; they are part of life. On any given day, in any given place – well, like today, right here, for example – there are people with hearts so broken they believe they’ll never be happy again. There are also people trying very hard not to burst out laughing at something that tickled their funny bone. I frequently hear people declare they just can’t come to Church right now because they’re afraid they’ll burst into tears or giggle so hard they won’t be able to stop. I don’t think either is inappropriate. In fact I think tears and laughter are at home here more than any other place. Every feeling we’ve ever known is, I submit, a kind of prayer. If I’m asked I say “It’s not good to hold onto either tears or laughter; let them out.” Sometimes words ust aren’t enough. No collection of vowels and consanants can express the inexpressable – “sighs too deep for words” the Bible calls them.
Of course we prefer things that evoke big grins . . . may you have many and long seasons of joy.
Every season has it’s place – “it’s time” – even in this sacred space, this God space. We come as we are – full of sorrow, frivolity, curiosity, regret, doubt and disbelief, and even full of boredom. Whatever you’ve got going on in here, it’s welcome in this house of God. Like everything else in the universe, it’s under the purview of God. And we offer all of it to God. Tears, laughter, and all of the other seasons of life; they are the prayers of our commom human language.
All of the stuff we bring into this sacred space is an offering from the depths of the human spirit. Holiness communes with Holiness. Much of what meets us around the bend – the greatest sorrows and ultimate joys – are too overpowering for words, though we know full well the unspoken intensity of them. Grief and joy that is shared bind us together. Telling someone who is grief-stricken “Once upon a time I buried someone I love too,” cuts through the terrible isolation that taunts us with the lie that there is no God or God just doesn’t care.
Likewise sharing something that makes your sides split from laughing too hard lifts our spirits: “I remember the time when my friends were waiting behind the bushes; when I stepped out of the car they drenched me with the hose.”
Our seasons are not very often concurrent. We don’t all feel the same way about what’s happening. I might be deeply grieved while you’re having the best day of your life. At some point or another we all go through times that stretch us so thin and tight we almost snap.
Some would say that St. Timothy’s is in a stretching time right now, and I would agree – with one very important codicil: St Timothy’s will emerge bigger, better, stronger, and more faithful. I don’t doubt that for a second.
A season of St. Timothy’s ends today, and a brand new season begins. Today is my last day as your Rector. I’ve had this great honor and privilege for more than twenty-one years. And we have been through many seasons, you and I. We have deep scars and sore sides from our times together. I cherish them all, even the times of tears because tears are a sign that we love, and that’s why we’re here.
The columbarium bears silent witness to some of the sorrow we shoulder. Annual retreats at taking viagra and cialis Shrine Mont, the Talentless Show, and the Hallejuh Honeys, recall seasons of rampaging joy. This Church, you the people of God have been through so many seasons since the first service on All Saints’ Sunday in 1868. You’ve been stretched from small to bigger, simple to better, weaker to stronger, and “We’re not so sure” but “What are we waiting for!” From that first service 147 years ago you have been The Church – you have fed the hungry, refreshed the thirsty, welcomed newcomers, clothed people who couldn’t clothe themselves (including a lot of children). You provided medical care for the sick, visited prisoners, hosted Recovery groups (currently 26 per week), sent skilled missionaries to Scott County Virginia, the Pine Ridge Reservation in South Dakota, and Haiti. You established a clothing outlet, a furniture outlet, a food bank, and a homeless shelter. You established and operate the finest preschool in Northern Virginia! You helped create Reston Interfaith now called Cornerstone. You’ve provided school supplies, fought for a Day Labor Center, host a Boy Scout Troop, welcome homeless and marginal people into God’s house, gave them respect, let them rest from scrounging for food and searching for a dry spot in the rain. You opened the doors of this Church to people fleeing for their lives from countries run by drug cartels. You treat everyone who comes through the doors with respect. As Jesus ordered us to do in our Gospel lesson this morning, you have responded with the love and generosity of our Savior.
None of us will ever know how many peole have received this hope and kindness, nor how profoundly these gifts have affected them and the world we share.
Do not stop!
Don’t be fooled into thinking that any redemptive effort is too large or too hard. Nothing is impossible for God, except defeat! Serving other people with the love of God and Jesus Christ is our vocation; it is our mission. We worship and we serve, in the name of Jesus Christ.
You are headed into a new season. You will be stretched and challenged. And you will prevail; you will succeed. You will be bigger, better, stronger, and more faithful than you can imagine.
Fr. Mark will help you through this time (and vice versa), as did Ralph and Nancy, Leslie and me. As Peter James Lee, Clay Matthews, and David Jones served as our Bishops, so Bishop’s Shannon, Goff, and Gulick do now. Others will follow. And keep your eye on our newly elected Presiding Bishop Michael Curry – he is a firecracker!
Prayer Books and Hymnals may change, especially as congregations become less monochromatic. We’ll all have to learn other languages. But, what’s really important is ending poverty, human trafficking, war . . .
Once upon a time when I was in Seminary (God was just a toddler at the time) no one could see into the future and prepare us for the communal and global seasons we face today. The gifts of the Holy Spirit come to us when we need them.
Remember that God’s dominion, providence, and victory is unassailable. Give God what you’re carrying in your heart and mind and spirit, and ask for what you need, for what the world needs.
And “May our Lord Jesus Christ himself and God our Father, who loves us and through grace gives us eternal comfort and good hope, comfort your hearts and strengthen you in every good work and word.”
Amen.